“I’ll never allow anyone to hurt me like that again! I’ll never be made a fool of! I won’t ever be that vulnerable again!” Little did I know, how significantly, those vows would impact and sabotage my life and marriage!
- Submit your pain to God. Remember, sometimes pain is expressed in stages. The severity of the wound often determines the length of the healing process—don’t give up. Click To Tweet God is near and ready to help. He is close to the brokenhearted and saves those crushed in spirit. (Psalm 34:18)
- Confess any hatred or anger you may be harboring. Address your emotions head on. Express them to God in simple sentences. Ask for help and the ability to forgive. Vocalize forgiveness out loud. It’s good to hear yourself say it. “I forgive (interject name) for (interject offense). God help me to remember this offense no longer.”
- Remember God is your defender. He is faithful to protect. Don’t take vengeance into your own hands. God will protect far better than you can defend yourself. Ask for His intervention.
- Recognize you can’t control another person’s actions. Each of us will give an account for our own actions, not one another’s. Submit your life to the principles of God’s Word and allow Him to convict your offender.
- Finally, freedom starts with a choice to forgive. We can’t change our past, but we need NOT be a victim to it. If we harbor bitterness it only destroys us. So, even if you don’t feel like forgiving, begin by praying “Lord I’m willing to be willing.”
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