{"id":1261,"date":"2018-07-06T17:35:51","date_gmt":"2018-07-06T17:35:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marriedforapurpose.com\/?p=1261"},"modified":"2020-08-28T20:16:13","modified_gmt":"2020-08-28T20:16:13","slug":"5-steps-to-grow-better-not-bitter","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marriedforapurpose.com\/5-steps-to-grow-better-not-bitter\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Steps to Grow Better, NOT Bitter"},"content":{"rendered":"
Don’t Grow Bitter …\u00a0Grow Better!<\/strong><\/p>\n Early on in our marriage we carried a lot of unhealthy vows like:\u00a0(Julie) I\u2019ll never allow anyone to hurt me like that again! I\u2019ll never be made a fool of! I won\u2019t ever be that vulnerable again!\u00a0\u00a0<\/em>(Greg) No woman\u2019s gonna control me. I’m a grown man. I can do what I want.\u00a0<\/em>Little did we\u00a0know, how significantly, those\u00a0vows<\/em>\u00a0would impact and sabotage our life and marriage!<\/p>\n It took a lot of effort to let go of those vows and it certainly didn’t happen overnight … as a matter of fact … we caused one another a lot of pain. We made a lot of blunders. Our choices led us to one final decision. We faced the question every couple must face at one time or another. Would we live bitter, or become better? Would we hold on to our offenses? Or, would we choose to forgive and let go of bitterness?<\/p>\n This Week’s Thought<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n It\u2019s been written\u00a0\u201cTo err is human; to forgive, divine.\u201d\u00a0<\/em>Though not necessarily found directly within Scripture, this phrase is deeply profound and contains the key to a happy marriage.\u00a0Despite our natural inclination to hold on to offenses, God commands each one of us to forgive, as He has forgiven.<\/p>\n This Week’s Scripture<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n Colossians 3:13 says, \u201cBear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n But\u2026forgiveness can be tough. Oh, we may be willing to forgive, but find ourselves powerless to live out that forgiveness with complete freedom. We find ourselves trying to will away negative emotions of un-forgiveness, only to find it resurfacing when we least expect it. We understand that forgiveness is a choice and a mandate for marriage\u2014but all too often we fail to be able to extend it, completely.<\/p>\n So, the million-dollar question remaining is\u00a0how?<\/em>\u00a0How do you overcome\u00a0bitterness, and freely forgive?<\/p>\n This Week’s Application<\/em><\/strong>
\nHere are a few suggestions that helped us in our journey:<\/p>\n