Weed: a wild plant growing where it is not wanted and in competition with cultivated plants.

Weeds are pesky in our gardens, but even more pesky in the garden of our life. One thing we’ve learned, is that in order to live God’s purpose, we must determine the seeds we need to plant and keep watered. Just as important is discerning the weeds–the practices, habits, or faulty beliefs–that threaten us from living God’s purpose so that we can remove them.

Our dear friend Scott Fay says, “Tearing out weeds may not be sexy, but it’s necessary. Weeds keep growing and stealing our energy until we remove them.”

Weeds show up in the way of fear, anger, bitterness, or resentment. Weeds may be unforgiveness, guilt, or shame. They may be found in bad habits like poor time management, self-sufficiency, focusing on the past, or living for a person’s approval. A weed may be living inside our comfort zone.

Need help identifying the weeds in your life? Here are a few questions to help you get started.

  1. Are there any habits threatening your desired crop that need to be uprooted?
  2. Have you made concessions, accepting what is good instead of living for what is great?
  3. What are you doing right now that will help yield a favorable result?
  4. Is there anything choking out time you could be spending on what is most fruitful?
  5. Are there any mindsets or limiting beliefs holding you back from pursuing God’s best?

As you go through these questions, keep in mind that weeds can sometimes at first glance appear noble, but in the end they keep you in your comfort zone and rob you from God’s best in your marriage.

Remember Galatians 6:9 says, “Let us know grow weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we don’t give up.”

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